Hi, everybody! I’m going to share some thoughts with you today and I know it’s been a really long time since you’ve heard from me. But this is something we’ve all been struggling with: self-care. It may not mean the same to everyone, but we all need some pampering every now and then, whether it’s as simple as a nap or a good read in your favorite armchair, or even a bit more advanced like a massage at the spa (in which case I really envy you!).
To tell you the truth, I am one of those people who have no idea how to put themselves first. There’s always something that seems more important or more urgent than a few moments for my own pleasure. But I did get to read an article recently that shed some light on this matter. It was mainly aimed at entrepreneurs and talked about how to properly manage your time and priorities at work, but it can definitely apply to our daily routine. Apparently, most of us can only multitask up to a certain point and focus on just three aspects of our lives at the same time. But how can you choose from work, rest, socializing, exercising and family? It seems impossible. The balance between our personal life and our performance at work is very fragile, so we have to make some delicate choices when directing our energy. And it’s difficult because urgent matters like health problems or our loved ones needing our help have a way of appearing all the time.
After some deep introspection, I came to the conclusion that my ideal way to pamper myself is traveling. I guess we all need to find that one thing that feels absent from our daily lives and do our best to feed the beast, so to say. In my case, I crave adventure, so whenever I can I travel and emotionally feast on the diversity and the inherent challenges that come along. Facing the wide world makes me think about my place in the greater scheme and get in touch with parts of myself that I ignore when I’m caught up in the routine. I keep my priorities clear and still try to do my best at being a loving mother and wife, at doing my job well, being a reliable friend and whatever else comes along. But these travels are also important, as they relax me and give me the fuel to go on with the rest.
Of course all that is much easier in theory than in practice. Before I can enjoy my little escape I have to take care of some essential aspects: making sure I can have a vacation from work, figure out who is going to help taking care of my child and that the house won’t look like a crash site when I come back. It took a lot of planning, but I actually managed a short escape in 2015 and will do my best to repeat the experience soon. I call it ‘Momcation’, but that’s just the name that seemed to suit my situation. But if traveling is what relaxes you too, feel free to give you getaway whatever crazy name you want!
There are a few essential aspects I have to take care of before such a momcation. I need to find the time, the right destination and the money, obviously. In my case, another key element is leaving my family at home. It may sound selfish but it’s not, actually. I love them with all my heart but these getaways are just for me and my sanity. I take good care of them every day and make sure they have everything they need and will go back to doing that after the momcation but these days are when I put myself first.
As I mentioned above, I inaugurated the momcations in 2015 when I went to Charleston, South Carolina. Basically, I just had long walks downtown and delighted myself with the town’s history and charming streets, indulged myself in their delicious Southern cuisine and, of course, slept as much as I wanted. I will share some of my favorite photos from my momcation below and I strongly suggest putting Charleston on your list for a short trip, because it will be worth it!
Did I catch your attention? Are you a travel enthusiast like me, or do you need something else to find your inner peace? To each his own, but if you had similar experiences, I would love to hear about it!